how do you tell someone...

How do you tell someone they really need to see a psychiatrist?  How do you comfort and console when you really want to say "seriously?  get over it already?".  How do you break someone out of a Hallmark channel way of thinking?

Life isn't all roses and greeting cards and cuddling and kissing.  I think I would puke if it were.

I really think Andy and I put on a good show.  We must!  People think we are the greatest couple, and we are.  But they must have so many visions in their head about how it is, and I can tell you...they are wrong!

Andy and I are a unique couple.  I think we are anyway.  We are both extremely independent.  In every sense.  He does his thing and I do mine.  We do things together but we are not schmoopy really.  But if I need emotional support, he is there.  And likewise.  But I think we are both so comfortable with each other and with our own selves we don't seek anything from each other. We are happy to know that the other is there if we need them, but at the same time, don't really need anything from the other because we are so comfortable with our own selves.

Does this make any sense?  I am drinking some Southern Comfort right now so it may not.

Back to the point...how do you tell someone that they are not acting rational, normal, etc. and they may need to seek help from a professional?  Is it something they have to discover on their own?  Is there something you can do to get them to the discovery?  And is there a way to do it so that you don't alienate them in the process?

Point is, I miss my friend.  I walk on eggshells around her because we have such different opinions on so many things.  I want her to be happy.  I want everyone to be happy together.  But sometimes I feel that she is in such denial about how things really are...or so disillusioned about how things should be?  I feel this prevents her from being happy.  She has so many visions of god knows what...and when it isn't like it is in the movies, its bad or wrong or not enough or whatever.  Life isnt all champagne and roses.  Life is what you make it...and if you are happy with what you got, then you stop thinking about what you don't.

How do you tell someone they are not dealing with the death of a loved one in a healthy way?  And that most of their issues with the rest of their life really is all about the fact that they are not over the death of said loved one?

ugh!  I just want everyone to stop crying and live happily ever after...is that too much to ask?  That is how it ends in the movies...right?

Pieces starting to fit...

So I had a fabulous day today...spent the day with Nicole, Andy and Abby and we had a great time!  I missed those kiddos so much!  They were great today...very well behaved and just a pleasure to be with.  It made me hopeful for when they are living here again, all the great times ahead of us.  They have grown into beautiful kids and I hope they will be happy here.  They seemed to be today.

I picked them up at noon and we headed to PF Changs for lunch and then went bowling at Thruway Lanes.  Boy do I need some practice!  We ended up putting the bumpers up which made the game a little more exciting...hahaha!  Both the kids did really well though!  Nicole too!  We all had a few strikes and spares.

We did a little shopping at Aldi's for Thanksgiving too.  The boys were hunting all day and Andy got a doe.  Doug didn't get anything but he seemed like he had a good time anyway.  When he got back we all went to Ruby Tuesdays for dinner. 

I know how I felt when I "knew" with Andy...is it possible that you can "know" even when it doesn't involve you?  Its kinda weird but I just "know" this is it...not just for Doug and Nicole.  For the kids too.  And for Andy and me and the 4 of them all together.  It just feels so right.  Its been a long road for everyone but its so close!  One more month!  I just cannot wait! 

2012 is going to be the best year ever!  Andy has applied to ECC and will hopefully have a new career in the next few months, Doug and the kids will be here, maybe I will start school for massage therapy? 

Things to remember:  having to put up the bumpers at the bowling alley, my birthday cards from Andy and Abby, cuddling in the back seat with my godchildren, sipping my wine and missing Andy tonight...the only thing missing today was him <3

November

I cannot believe its November already!  I just want holiday overwith (from a retail perspective anyway) and its moving right along.  We set Christmas in the store on Sunday and it was a long day.  Didn't get out until 1am and then had to work at 9am the next day followed by dinner with the family to celebrate mom's birthday.  Closed Tuesday and had to write the schedule and take conference call because the boss is on vacation.  Did an interview and have another interview again tomorrow.  Still have to hire about 5-10 more people!  At least I had today off.  I made some beef barley soup and it was amazing.  I ate about a half a loaf of sourdough bread throughout the day too.  I am off Friday too and Andy and I are planning to go out with Brad and Erika for dinner and then over to their place to watch the Sabres game.  Then I work Saturday and off again Sunday.  Not too bad. 

Hopefully the schedule for November won't need to be adjusted (for me anyway).  As it stands right now I have off the weekend before Thanksgiving which is also opening weekend of hunting season.  Doug will be here with the kids so hopefully it will work out that Andy and Doug can do a little hunting and Nicole and I can have some kid time.  I only have that weekend off and Thanksgiving Day when they are here so hopefully we can all spend some time together. 

So I fell off a ladder the other day at work.  I missed the last step and my knee hit the rung and its all bruised and sore.  Could have been worse I guess but I am using it as my excuse to not get on my treadmill yet.  So, basically what I am saying is I still have no motivation.  Could blame it on a lot of things...been trying to fight a cold, sore knee, other stuff to do.  I just gotta do it...the vitamins seem to be helping a little, but I just need to do it.  It was a pretty crazy week though with work and all the other birthday and anniversary celebrations.  Next week for sure.  I get my hour back on Sunday...yeah...Sunday starts the workout routine!  Time changes, knee should be healed, its Sunday so its a new week, I have the day off...yeah Sunday!

Things to remember:  really good beef barley soup, and awesome sourdough bread!  Having the windows and the front door open in NOVEMBER!  Grocery shopping at Wegmans and smelling all the great fall scents (turkey, sage, apples, etc) and not wearing a winter coat.  Driving with the windows down and the sun shining and remembering this is how winter in Arizona is and missing it.  *contemplating* decorating for Christmas...maybe...