how do you tell someone...

How do you tell someone they really need to see a psychiatrist?  How do you comfort and console when you really want to say "seriously?  get over it already?".  How do you break someone out of a Hallmark channel way of thinking?

Life isn't all roses and greeting cards and cuddling and kissing.  I think I would puke if it were.

I really think Andy and I put on a good show.  We must!  People think we are the greatest couple, and we are.  But they must have so many visions in their head about how it is, and I can tell you...they are wrong!

Andy and I are a unique couple.  I think we are anyway.  We are both extremely independent.  In every sense.  He does his thing and I do mine.  We do things together but we are not schmoopy really.  But if I need emotional support, he is there.  And likewise.  But I think we are both so comfortable with each other and with our own selves we don't seek anything from each other. We are happy to know that the other is there if we need them, but at the same time, don't really need anything from the other because we are so comfortable with our own selves.

Does this make any sense?  I am drinking some Southern Comfort right now so it may not.

Back to the point...how do you tell someone that they are not acting rational, normal, etc. and they may need to seek help from a professional?  Is it something they have to discover on their own?  Is there something you can do to get them to the discovery?  And is there a way to do it so that you don't alienate them in the process?

Point is, I miss my friend.  I walk on eggshells around her because we have such different opinions on so many things.  I want her to be happy.  I want everyone to be happy together.  But sometimes I feel that she is in such denial about how things really are...or so disillusioned about how things should be?  I feel this prevents her from being happy.  She has so many visions of god knows what...and when it isn't like it is in the movies, its bad or wrong or not enough or whatever.  Life isnt all champagne and roses.  Life is what you make it...and if you are happy with what you got, then you stop thinking about what you don't.

How do you tell someone they are not dealing with the death of a loved one in a healthy way?  And that most of their issues with the rest of their life really is all about the fact that they are not over the death of said loved one?

ugh!  I just want everyone to stop crying and live happily ever after...is that too much to ask?  That is how it ends in the movies...right?